Each day, several times a day we make a decision, in fact, just about everything we do is a decision and a choice.
Yes, to be a victim is a choice, its not something that happens to you.
Every moment you get to choose what it is you want, its our greatest gift and our greatest fear because no one else is responsible for but you you, and when you start to take that on, and try it on and play with it, it can be scary.
Crap, it can be scary as hell, but every so often you make a choice that changes the course of your life forever, in ways that you will truly not understand sometimes until years later.
Today, I’d like to talk to you about one of those decisions, and one of those choices I made several years ago in my business and my life for that matter.
Maybe today you will make one of those choices and decisions too!
Can one conversation change everything?
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I remember like it was yesterday…
It was a warm summers day, my daughter, now 3 was less then 6 months at the time, she was upstairs with our nanny, who just arrived an hour ago, before John had to head off to work for the evening, he was working 1:30-11 shift at the school. And Kyle, then 3, now going on 7 was still at day care.
I was downstairs in my finished home office in the basement. I could hear the nanny pacing back and forth as she tried to comfort Summer, when all she really wanted was her mom, she was not feeling well again, it was a daily occurrence at that point but I had “so much work” to be done that I felt I could not take the time to comfort and be with her, which was why we hired the nanny in the first place.
I felt bad, I felt guilty, all I wanted was to spend some time with her and comfort her, hold her in my arms and let her know it was all going to be okay.
This was not the first time I felt this way, but this day was different, because this was the day I everything changed, a new decision, a new conversation. And that decision and that conversation has changed the course of my life in so many different ways I could not even imagine at the time.
In the past 30 days, 6 people, close family, friends, and colleagues just up and died and we were on a whirlwind of a roller coaster of emotions and I really began to question everything.
What was this all for?
- these long hours
- all this work
- all this stuff?
Why was I here?
- could it really be to work my ass off with very little reward, hardly ever see my kids, hardly ever see my husband?
- what was the purpose of all of it?
- why am I here?
- What am I “supposed” to be doing? and how can I do it in a way that fulfills me, my bank account, my family and that did not require me to work 17 hour days while trying to care for 2 small kids, with a husband who worked nights at the school and weekends at the fire department.
As I sat in my chair, staring off into space, I asked myself these questions, and waited for the responses.
- I was scared
- I felt alone
- Like I was doing it all on my own
Sure, I had a business coach, sure, I took every certification and training under the sun, sure i had degrees, sure I could help others build profitable and sustainable businesses, but for some reason I could not figure this out for me.
I was stuck in the constant up and down, one month I’d earn $1000 next month $3000, next month $500, some months $5000 but it wasn’t consistent, it wasn’t something I could hang my hat on and depend on.
And come the end of the year, I would always earn right around $35,000….for the past several years since starting my service based business.
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I did not make sense to me
- I was smart
- I was savvy
- I had degrees
- I had certifications
- I had trainings
- I had a coach
- I had invested 10?s of thousands of dollars in my “after college” education, to try and make this work, heck, this wasn’t even my first business
- Heck, I had even helped dozens of other business owner get the same freedom I was seeking, with structure, and systems, and teams
Why did I sell that Internet business in the first place?
I began to question myself?
Oh right, because I wanted to be fulfilled, I wanted to help people to create what they wanted to create, I wanted to help others to be free too, but some how in the process, I lost my freedom.
All I wanted so badly was to earn just $8000 per month, that would pay or regular expenses, give us enough money so that John could quiet his job at the school and we could be family.
- Oh, I so desperately wanted to be a family.
- I so desperately wanted to be free.
- I so desperately wanted to make choices that did not revolve around money
- I wanted to leave my kids a legacy (and not the one my family left me)
- I so desperately wanted to be fulfilled with my work, not just doing it because I was good at it, or because it brought in money.
- I wanted a sense of purpose, not just a paycheck, heck, I did not want a paycheck, I wanted to write my own ticket.
- My own ticket to freedom.
- Rise and grind every day
- Work myself until my eyes were heavy and my back hurt, just trying to figure out that one thing that magic bullet that would change it all
- Trading dollars for hours.
Yeah, maybe sometimes I can create $5000 a month, but how do I do that consistently without burning out, working 24/7 and being resentful of my clients?
There had to be another way.
Then, it came to me, there was another way and it all started with a conversation.
My then mentor at the time, had mentioned another mentor, he was a pretty big deal in the coaching arena and I actually had a client that was working with him, so I knew first hand what kind of money he charged and what kind of results people get from working with him. In fact, my mentor had worked with him, which is why I even knew her in the first place.
I remember staring at his website for a few days, I did not really know him, just of him, but I knew one thing for sure, if I filled out the contact form, I was likely getting a phone call.
I spoke with my mentor at the time and told her what I was going through and what I wanted to create, I can still hear her saying, well, then, Kim, you know exactly what you need to do.
And I did, that day, filled out the form and next thing I know I was having a conversation so that would literally change the course of my life and business forever.
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1 – What do you really want?
Hmm, what do I really want?
Well…This is what I wanted at the time. It was pretty simple… I wanted to stop struggling and start thriving
- I wanted to be free
- I wanted to have money to do the things I want to do
- I wanted to be able to work when and where I want
- I wanted to consistently earn $8k per month
- I wanted to know how I am going to earn $8k consistently every month so that I do not burn out and never see my kids or husband.
- I wanted to do what I love to do and get paid for it
- I wanted to never have to worry about money again
- I wanted to spend quality time with my kids and husband, I want to be a family
- I wanted my husband to be able to quiet is job
- I wanted to be able to go on vacation when and where I want
2 – What is stopping you from having what you want?
That was simple, at the time I literally had no idea how to consistently earn the money I want to earn doing the work I want to do without burning out.
(sure, I could help other people do this, but I could not connect the dots for myself, I felt like I was special, I was the exception, everyone else could have it, could live the dream, but not me, it was too hard, plus, did I really deserve it? I mean, who the hell was I that I was going to be able to live the life I wanted to live, doing the work I wanted to do, earning the money I wanted to earn, enjoying my free time, my kids, my house, my family…)
3 – Are you willing to do what it takes to get what you want?
Damn straight I said, if you can show me how, I will do whatever it takes, whatever it takes, I want this so bad I can taste it, and I am not willing to die without fulfilling my dream.
Being on the other side of this, I will tell you this, I did whatever it took, and let me tell you, it wasn’t always pretty and it wasn’t always easy and it took having the right kind of support in my life and business to be able to make the changes I needed to make to get to the other side.
I don’t say that to scare you, or be dramatic, but I will tell you this, the thing I personally had to do get to the other side, where I sit now, most people will never have to do nor would most ever do. But that’s okay, because we are all on our own journey, and the truth is, that God does not give us anything that we cannot handle, we are all meant to have our own journey.
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Bam, just like that. Seriously, I went through this thought process with one of the support coaches on this mentors team and by the end of the conversation I had made a new decision, a new choice.
I decided I was no longer willing to remain stuck, I was no longer willing to not have what I wanted, I was no longer willing to hide my dreams under the rugs and hope and pray that something would change.
I was ready to make a change, and so, I decided, let’s do this, I want to work with him.
Okay great, in order to schedule the VIP day (this is how the relationship started, a 4 hour in person session) there is a required deposit of $20,000.
What the what?, what I minute, I thought, I don’t have that kind of money, just told you, my husband finally just got a JOB after being out of work for nearly 1 1/2 years, I had a new born, and a 3 year old, I was barley scrapping by, we already spent all of our money from our 401K’s, retirement accounts, savings, it was gone, there was nothing left.
I thought, how am I going to do this? It just seemed impossible.
She said to me…”Kim, let me ask you something”, yeah, sure, “Is this what you really want? Truly? to have this life?”
YES, I do…
“and you are willing to do what it takes?”
YES…
“then the money is there, the how always shows up once you make a decision that its what you want and you have the desire deep inside of you, you see, that is given to you by God, and that means the way is already here.”
Okay, great, so How do I “see” it because from where I am looking, I see a whole bunch of zeros in my account, and I no way to make this happen.
“Kim, the way is there”
Then it popped into my head…
Well, I have a credit card that has 0{9426e48ae5c3b3ab02332dd167966d9e9ea7aa41d6d2b8540a0550b4f9308632} interest for 6 months, maybe I can use that, but the credit limit is only $5,000.
“that’s okay, give me that credit card, I will send over the agreement, and in a week from now, we will process the remaining $15,000 on your credit card and schedule your first session”
hey, I’m Kim + I am ridiculously passionate about helping you to work smarter and not harder + to realize how freaking amazing you actually are, exactly as you are and how easy business really can be when you are in alignment + simplify + add systems to organize your business + plan your business growth. I’ve been geeking out about online business, online marketing + systems + personal development + all that stuff since I created my first business back in 2006 + sold it.
This whole business owner thing is not for the faint of heart, there is a reason why most businesses fail!
While the road to burnout doesn’t look the same for everyone on it there are some similarities you typically experience on this path!
You’re always in the weeds of your business
You don’t have efficient systems and processes (or maybe none at all)
You aren’t delegating effectively
You can’t take time off
You’re trying to do too many things at once + wearing all the hats
It’s exhausting just thinking about it! But there’s a way off the hamster wheel!
If you’re overwhelmed, overworked, stressed out, and worried that if you take time off the bottom will fall out from beneath you and your business will fall apart.
Then, you are in the right place my friend, been there, done that, got the tee-shirt and I’d love to support you in ending the cycle!
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