I was drinking my coffee early this morning, while the kiddos were still sleeping and I was journaling. My usual morning routine, on most days and I was thinking about how I used to be with all the things I “think” I have to do in order to be successful, or rather, who I think I need to be in order for that to be true.
Things like I need to have it all figured out, I need to act a certain way, don’t show that part of yourself to your clients, or your tribe, or they might NOT like you.
A few years ago in my biz I was pretty much doing whatever it takes to make money, even if it meant that I was doing things I did not want to do, and worse then doing things I did not want to do, I was being a person I did not want to be. I was being who I thought I needed to be, to be seen as the person who can help my client.
Can you relate?
Do you ever feel like you need to hide certain parts of yourself in order to be who you think you need to be for others?
I know, the majority if not all of the folks I work with tend to have this tendency. And I want you to know that there isn’t anything wrong with you for thinking this way. It is NOT your fault, but it is your responsibility to change it.
Sometimes, I catch myself still filtering myself, but those times are few and far between these days. Instead, I usually just don’t do those things, meaning, I just hide instead.
You see, my desire to be me is so strong, where I will not do things any longer in my business even if it means I won’t make money, because I can no longer be that person who used to pimp herself out and work with clients that were not the best fit, not because I could not help them, I would never do that, but because I used to have to pretend to be someone else in order to work with them.
It was sucking the life out of me, it was killing my soul, no joke. I was thinking about in the wee hours of the morning how I used to try and convince myself that it would be okay, that if I just pretended to be someone else than they would like me. And so, I kept up the facade so that they would.
I did this for many years, actually, it was pretty common, because I used to do this all the time, just to survive back in the day when I was growing up but it got to the point where I just could not do it anymore.
You see, my business was killing me, that tends to happen when you have to keep up a facade and hide pieces of yourself out of fear that you will not be accepted, but no longer, is that an option, it hasn’t been and then I realized I am not sure that I really shared this with you.
The real reason I continue to fight, no matter how hard it gets, no matter what personal obstacles I need to face to make my business work.
So, here goes, this video I created awhile back as part of a challenge I did that really gets to the route of why I am so passionate about helping business owners like yourself and why I keep going no matter what is thrown at me.
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hey, I’m Kim + I am ridiculously passionate about helping you to work smarter and not harder + to realize how freaking amazing you actually are, exactly as you are and how easy business really can be when you are in alignment + simplify + add systems to organize your business + plan your business growth. I’ve been geeking out about online business, online marketing + systems + personal development + all that stuff since I created my first business back in 2006 + sold it.
This whole business owner thing is not for the faint of heart, there is a reason why most businesses fail!
While the road to burnout doesn’t look the same for everyone on it there are some similarities you typically experience on this path!
- You’re always in the weeds of your business
- You don’t have efficient systems and processes (or maybe none at all)
- You aren’t delegating effectively
- You can’t take time off
- You’re trying to do too many things at once + wearing all the hats
It’s exhausting just thinking about it! But there’s a way off the hamster wheel!
If you’re overwhelmed, overworked, stressed out, and worried that if you take time off the bottom will fall out from beneath you and your business will fall apart.
Then, you are in the right place my friend, been there, done that, got the tee-shirt and I’d love to support you in ending the cycle!