The power of decision

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I wanted to share something with you that has been on my mind the last few days and that has been a total game changer for me and perhaps it will be for you as well and that is the power of decision.

I don’t know about you but for me, I know that it’s really easy to think that I made a decision when really, all I did was create a back door or pretended that I made a decision. Below I’d like to share with you a story of how making a decision has the power to seriously change everything.

First, though, I actually want to define what I mean by actually making a decision, at least what it means to me so that you have some context here.

When you decide something you are cutting off all other possibilities from something else. Meaning, there is no go backing, you make a decision that you are going to do something and you do it. You don’t think about it, you do it, there is no if ands or buts about it.

It sounds simple yet this is a very important step in any process.

Learning how to make decisions is one of the most important things that have been able to change the trajectory of my business and in life and one of the things I love to help my clients within my coaching programs.

It was several years back in my business and I was kinda really in a rut and I felt really stuck. It was like no matter what I did I just couldn’t seem to bring in any clients. I had just shut down an arm on my business that was making me on average $35k per month but it was sucking the life out of me and was no longer working for me. It was totally a conscious decision I made to shut it down because my soul was screaming no more, I was unwilling to sacrifice to make money.

I was kinda in this place where I was like, okay I want to work with these kinds of clients, and I want to help them with this but I did not really decide what it was I wanted, just not what I was doing. It went on a few months like this, well probably closer to 6 months actually and the longer it went on the more desperate I became. We now really needed the money and I had to “make” things happen. Yet, there was this other part of me that was unwilling to compromise and work with the old way I used to work.

It was like, no way Kim, you can’t do this, if you are going to this then why did you shut down that part of the business anyway? You know this is out of alignment, don’t do it. But there was the logical side of me that was like, well, can’t we just do it for a little while, I mean maybe just on a smaller scale, it won’t be that bad, you can deal with it until you get yourself built back up again.

Only, this other part of me would never let it happen and so I was kinda in this limbo state, where the new stuff I wanted to do would not work and the old stuff I did not really want to do but was really good at did not work either.

I was stuck between two worlds, the harder I worked and the more I pushed the worse it got.

I wanted it so bad but couldn’t seem to get a client to save my life in this new way.

I finally get to this point where I cannot even pretend to hold it all together anymore. The pain was just too much, trying to control it all was just too much. I broke down. At that moment, I threw up my hands and began to ball. and I surrendered. To it all.

I accepted where I was.

I came to peace with where I was and what I was going through.

I realized that I was trying to do all the things but not the things that I really wanted, just the things I thought I “needed” to do, in the way that I thought I needed to do them to look successful and get clients and keep my shit together.

The biggest thing I realized is that out of fear I was holding onto that old me, what if this new way doesn’t work, I can fall back on this, but I had already decided I did not want the old way of doing things.

I let myself wallow in this for a day or so and then I came to this realization that what I really needed to do was actually to make a decision.

I realized, that the part of the decision I neglected to make was that I was only willing to do it this new way.

And right then, right there I finally decided, for real this time.

I decided how many clients I wanted, and how much money, and I wanted to work with them in this way, helping them to do this thing, etc, etc. I decided on it all. This was also when I decided I was no longer willing to work when the kids were home on vacation, or on the weekends (unless I wanted to), I had been “trying” forever to not do this but again, another thing that just wasn’t working.

Anyway, I decide on all of this, and I let go of all the things that others told me I had to do that did not feel good and decided what I was willing to do instead.

Basically, I decided to go all in, on me and to trust me. 

Really, it’s that simple, not easy, necessarily, I know it sure wasn’t for me, but simple, yes, the truth is, the shift really was just a shift in perspective.

To bet on me.

To believe in me.

To keep on trusting that things were going to work out, that the clients would show up, the money would come through in time, that the very real struggle would stop and was going to be able to create a business that worked for me instead of feeling like I was slave to my business working all these crazy hours for little to no results.

Interestingly enough, that was the same year that the number of hours I started to work in my business dramatically decreased, I worked with the most amazing clients, some of which I still have the honor to work with to this day, many years later, who got amazing results, and I increased my profitability in my biz (not just my revenue) by more than 70%. Oh yeah, and I was finally happy, I finally had real time with my kids, and hubby, and real vacations, the whole nine yards of all of the stuff I had been trying to create for years. It finally, all clicked into place.

Now, what’s interesting about all of this, is that often times I think that I have made a decision about something and that I think that I have let go of all the things I think I need to be and do yet, if things are not working out, as in I do not have the result I thought I would have, even though it often shows up very differently than I thought it would, I know that I have to go back to this very basic and simple concept and ask myself the question, did I actually decide or am I pretending that I did decide?

The way that my mind likes to trick me and many of the beautiful clients I get to work with is that I thought I did decide. But really, if I am honest with myself when things are just not working out, it comes down to I thought I decided but I really did not cut off all the other possibilities.

Like in the story above, I had been “trying” forever, as in years, to try and only work when the kids were in school, and not be obligated to work when they weren’t yet because I never decided, and then took action to support that decision it never actually happened. It was like until I decided I am done with this and I will no longer work when the kids are home, and I did NOT allow myself to work when the kids where home did it actually happen.

It meant that I had to stop doing other things during the day that I thought I had to do in order to be successful and I had to take off the masks of pretending and I had to stop scheming to find another way, leaving a back door open, just in case it didn’t work. Just in case I couldn’t pull it off.

Once I did that, all of sudden, my perspective changed and all of a sudden I could see all of the opportunities around me to “get” what it was I wanted all along.

And that my friend, is the power of making a decision.

You can make an impact, make a difference and make a darn good living in the process, for me, it’s all about Freedom, it’s one of the values I hold nearest and dearest to my heart. And if you are reading this, I suspect that is the case for you as well.

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Much love, xox, Kim

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